A good relationship has a pattern like a dance and is built on some of the same rules. The partners do not need to hold on tightly, because they move confidently in the same pattern, intricate but gay and swift and free… To touch heavily would be to arrest the pattern and freeze the movement, to check the endlessly changing beauty of its unfolding.
When each partner loves so completely that he has forgotten to ask him(her)self whether or not he(she) is loved in return; when he only knows that he loves and is moving to its music – then, and then only, are two people able to dance perfectly in tune to the same rhythm.
“..once the realization is accepted that, even between the closest human beings, infinite distances continue to exist, a wonderful living side by side can grow up, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole and against a wide sky!” -Rilke
Excerpts from Gift from the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh
